Being single and seeing so many failed marriages around me, I feel like I can actually give some advice to married women because of all the things that I have seen close friends endure. I don’t consider myself someone who would be able to give advice to women on how to handle a marriage, but I can certainly give them advice on what they should never lose when they get married.
The first thing is that you should never lose your sense of independence. Never allow your partner to become your whole world. That kind of dependence is not going to be good for you and your partner might actually feel suffocated by it. Always maintain a sense of independence and look for activities that are just for you.
You should also keep your beauty and look as radiant as you can. This is not something you should do for your partner only, but for yourself too. I have seen many married women neglect their external beauty and this will start to affect them psychologically because they will feel like their partner might not find them as attractive as they used to be.
Whatever you do, don’t get rid of your social circle. I understand that being married means that you will see your friends less and less, but you should always take the time to maintain a good relationship with your closest friends. This is going to allow you to always have a way to relax and enjoy something that gives you a break from the daily activities of married life.
Last but not least, you need to remember that you are not defined by the word wife and no one should ever have to put up with a bad partner because they have kids and they feel obligated to endure a bad relationship for them.