Dating has been an important ritual that precedes long term commitment and marriage since time immemorial. Through dating, you make friends and enjoy each others company. Dating is the foundation of a lasting intimate comradeship. You learn about your partner’s strengths, weaknesses, fears, dreams and aspirations. Essentially dating entails exposing all of you, including the carefully guarded secrets to your partner, without fear of being judged or condemned. It is by exposing our vulnerabilities to a non judgmental person that the true foundation of genuine friendship is established.
So how should single women approach dating? From a married man’s perspective, perhaps the best advice to the single women is to be their true selves. Let the man know your true character, looks, fears, and inspirations. After all no one is perfect and he does not expect you to be! Although men are considered to be virtual creatures, your perfect make up will not capture his attention for long. He is aware of his many flaws and would feel cheated after discovering that you emphasize more on physical appeal than inner beauty. As a single woman, dress and act your part. However, be natural and real. Let him accept and be comfortable with your true self.
It is liberating to approach dating with a mindset of forging an authentic friendship. Single women should avoid the temptation of thinking that dating should always result to long term commitment or marriage. Having a mindset of developing true friendship liberates the woman from the pressure of trying to please the man. It frees her true self, which greatly enhances her appeal to the man. If you are spontaneous and fun loving woman, don’t be constrained by the traditions that define how women should behave in front of men. Enjoy yourself and let him know. Life is meant to be lived. Let him miss and look forward to your companionship. After all long term commitment and marriage have their own fair share of challenges. Free your self and enjoy the moment!