What women really want and what they say they want are often totally different things. Just like the song by Terri Clark, Girls Lie Too. I know we want a connection that leads to great love. When we sleep with a guy on the first date, he is thinking, “She is probably thinking the same thing I am. We both had a lot of fun and maybe we will see each other again.” What is she really thinking? “The sex and the connection is amazing, I could really fall for him. This is something special. This might be ‘the one.’”
Let me give you an example: Allie met Greg, a really successful business man, and in her mind, totally out of her league. They flirted back and forth on the phone until he asked her out. She slept with Greg on their first and only date. She thought there was a strong connection and assumed he had feelings for her, since she had gotten so many texts and flirtatious phone calls prior to the day he asked her out. After their first date, Allie complained that he has never called or sent any texts again in the past 3 months.
He probably won’t. Most guys think we feel the same way they do. Greg probably thinks that it doesn’t matter to her, either. It does.
Allie had recently ended a relationship with a great love, in order to be with Greg, who appeared to be much more successful than her former lover. She thought the grass was greener on the other side. Remember: The grass is always greener on whatever side you water. Sometimes what things look like are not what they really are. We say we want great love, but sometimes women will trade integrity and love for a great wallet and/or financial security and wealth. Women, be clear with yourself and what you are looking to attract. You can have great love and wealth, too, if that’s what you want.
You may have a clear intention on what you want the guy to look like on the outside. For example: financial abundance. On the inside, you want a man who is willing and looking for an incredible woman to share their life with. Guys, we know you love a challenge and the chase, and will work up a sweat and run the marathon race to “get your woman to love you.” Women, we need to set the bar high for ourselves and our potential mate. He likes working to get his girl and we need to let him chase us. We can be “hard to get” and still be loyal and maintain a high level of integrity. We can be the sexy smart sweet passionate person who wants to be with him, without appearing desperate. Remember, men chase and women choose. Let him be your knight in shining armor who wins your heart, while you’ve been winning his heart the whole time he’s been chasing; simply because he loves the chase.